Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Bachelor Parties

I think its safe to say that about 99% of women hate the idea of a bachelor party. Maybe less, but coming from a girl whose fiance is about to have one in a couple of weeks it sounds pretty accurate. I trust him completely, yes, and he tells me there won't even be "girls" involved. Yeah... tell that to all of his friends.

I guess this isn't really about my discomfort with bachelor parties though. This is about Frank, and his bachelor party.

See, his bachelor party was SO important to him (there was something very specific he wanted to do) that he actually started planning it before we were even engaged. Weird, I know. I hated it... oh did I hate it. Again, not about me... about Frank. Anyways, his bachelor party is happening well before our actual wedding. Again, a little strange. Again, its what he really wanted to do. It is not happening in the most convenient time, or place, but its happening and I'm trying my best to be excited with him. Sadly though, the person he would like to be there the most "can't" go. His brother. Not because he can't afford it, not because he has to work, but because his girlfriend won't let him.

Now I try my best to be nice to people, and accept people, but if you had heard Frank when he told me his brother would not be attending... it broke my heart. He was really pretty disappointed. Now, this girl has a reason... sort of. Its her birthday. Frank didn't schedule it that way on purpose, the NCAA did (he wants to go to the basketball tournament.) I understand its a special day, but c'mon. You're going to be 28 years old, and you'll have another birthday next year! Couldn't they do something to celebrate her birthday a different night??? Frank won't be having another bachelor party, this is it. Honestly though, the worst part is that she's really just using her birthday as an excuse because I don't think she'd let him go anyways. Now, I could go on and on about her because this isn't the first time I've found her to be the most selfish person in the world (we were told we HAD to buy her Christmas presents around $100.00 each,) but again, this isn't about her or me. Poor Frank. I wish there was something I could do to convince his brother to go.

Needless to say, I'm feeling pretty bummed today along with my hubby-to-be.


12 comments:

Wearing Mascara said...

Aww that sucks dude. :-( I would feel the same way about being bummed! Hang in there!

Hannah Noel said...

Awww, poor frank!! His brother should go anyways.. I mean, it's his brother!!

Jenny said...

That's how I feel Hannah Noel. I can't believe he lets himself be so controlled like that. Humph..

Caitlin said...

Wow... his g/f sucks! I would totally let B miss my birthday to celebrate his brother's bachelorette party - even if it involved things I wasn't really happy about. I don't think bachelor parties are really all about a guy's last night as a free man - but it is about being a "guy" and being "that guy" with all your closest friends. =0( Poor Frank.

Adrienne said...

Oh that sucks! I totally agree that she should be able to celebrate her b-day with him on another night, I mean it's his brother not just some friend! I think you are right that she is just using this as an excuse. I can't believe she is 28, as I was reading your post I initially thought she was like 18 or something by the way she sounded....haha.

LauraAnn said...

That definitely stinks! Sounds like his brother needs to ditch the girlfriend before he is stuck with her! Is there anyway that you could talk to his brother and let him know how much this would mean to him and propose the idea of celebrating her birthday the night before or the next night?!? Hopefully she doesn't have his brother too brainwashed/whipped so that he will realize how much this means to your future husband! Good luck and I hope that his brother is able to go to his bachelor party!

Hi, Lane said...

Ugh. That's so frustrating. My least favorite person in the world is my sister-in-law just because of the manipulation she uses with my brother. She's turned my brother against the rest of my whole family. And when you figure out how to deal with her... please let me know! I have at least one thought each day about what I'd like to do/say to her if I had her in a room for 5 minutes... My SIL is just using my wedding as a way to come between our families, so I understand the excuse part.

Sounds like Frank's brother needs to (excuse my language) grow some balls and tell her he'll celebrate her birthday the next night.

I hope it all works out!

Melissa said...

That is frustrating, that does sound like she's using her birthday as an excuse :( Hopefully his brother will decide to go to his bachelor party after all :)

Jenny.Lee said...

I feel like his brother should go anyway too. I mean come on! The GF is being incredibly selfish in my opinion. :(

Jenn said...

Bummer! I can totally relate, because my fiance's brother's fiance is EXACTLY the same way. :( It's exhausting.

CheapAndEasy said...

Now see, if I were you, I wouldn't care so much that the girlfriend is a bitch but I would be beyond pissed off at his brother. I mean seriously, are you kidding me?! He's not going to his brother's one & only bachelor party because his girlfriend won't let him? I don't care if it is her birthday, he should be man enough to stand up to her & tell her he's sorry but in this particular instance, his brother needs to come first. Geez, I'm angry for you!

Jenny said...

Just an update on this situation. I did try to talk to Frank's brother, and he said he would "try" to go. Unfortunately, I dropped Frank off at the airport last night, and his brother will not be joining him.

On a bright note, thanks for all of your comments, they made me laugh so much. Its tough having to deal with someone so greedy and selfish. Its just not anything I'm used to and she has really just destroyed her image with everyone, including Frank's family. I've never seen someone who exudes such unlikeable qualities. Everyone that meets her, can't stand her. So, in the end, I guess I learned a lesson about love and consideration. Something hopefully she will learn when its her turn.

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